When it comes to planning the wedding, grooms have always had the bad reputation of being very lazy!
In fact, it’s thought that they simply hang around with their mates enjoying a couple of drinks or indulging in gaming sessions and only help pay for the entire event.
Having said that, not every bride out there is a bridezilla and not every groom is among the stereotypical group who are indifferent to their wedding.
Over the past few years, a lot of men have broken the mold and worked along with their bride on the wedding planning. This means, even you could plan your D-day and be the all-star groom that you are!
We’re sure that you’re new to all this and therefore, have put together this small guide (from choosing a venue and creating a guest list to sending wedding invitations and writing your own vows) to help you plan the perfect D-day everyone will remember for years!
Let’s dive in!
- Stick to the 80/20 Wedding Planning Rule
When you’re planning your own wedding, you need to firstly begin with understanding the 80/20 rule.
This is basically a concept where 80% of your expenses take place due to the 20% of your decisions. Put simply, you need to work as a team along with your bride-to-be and come up with the perfect 20% from your end.
To find the perfect balance and make the right decisions, you need to focus on the “big three” of planning a wedding. This includes:
Your Guest List
This is one of the most crucial parts where you and your bride-to-be need to work together and decide on people you want to and don’t want to invite.
You could also rank your friends and other family members based on their importance, in case you want only a limited number of people attending your wedding.
Your Wedding Date
Yet another crucial part of your wedding, this is where as a groom you need to be the voice of reason.
In other words, you need to ensure that your big day isn’t clashing with any major events or holidays as that might lead to some guests missing out on this special occasion.
Your Food Menu
While the food you serve at your wedding might not seem like a challenging task, it sure makes a huge difference.
This means, you need to figure out what you’d want to serve – would it be a normal affair or do you want to go with simple finger food. Or perhaps, you want to add gourmet chocolate gifts from Melt Chocolates as a token of appreciation.
These are the most crucial aspects that you need to consider when deciding on a venue because that’s what takes up most of your budget. Moreover, while you’re at it, make sure you’re using your own caterer and bringing liquor from your end (ask the venue though!); this will help lower your wedding expenses.
- Put Your Groomsmen and Best Man to Work
Once you’ve understood the 80/20 rule, it’s time to choose your groomsmen and best man (if you haven’t already!). You could fill your roster with the bride-to-be’s favourite brother, your best friends and other men from your family.
Now, it’s time for these men to act as your team and more importantly, your go-to people for different wedding ideas, giving you the right advice, helping you run errands and keeping you sane (quite literally!).
Note – This is the most crucial part of this groom’s guide to planning the ultimate wedding; do pay more attention to it!
- Choose the Right Type of Music
It goes without saying that music is the most crucial element of any occasion as it can literally make or break the mood; your wedding is no exception!
That said, it’d be great if you gave your DJ a list of “do-not” and “must-play” songs to play during the ceremony; this can depend on what both you and your bride prefer.
- Keep an Eye On the Wedding Registry
Ignoring the wedding registry is the last thing you’d want when planning your wedding; it could certainly lead to dire outcomes if your wife finds out there aren’t going to be any personalised gifts.
What’s more, you could also be at the risk of receiving extra sets of towels, teacups or even gravy boats that your partner truly hates!
This is where you’d want to register yourself on online sites like Target.com or Amazon.com (your bride-to-be might want to register on conventional brick-and-mortar shops). In doing so, you can ensure that you’re receiving gifts from those who are unable to come to the wedding.
- Write Your Own Vows
Yes, you read that right!
You need to ensure that you’re ready with your wedding vows even before your bride-to-be asks you to. Just be honest with it, use simple words and do include the 3 Fs:
- Forever – Tells her how long you want your marriage and love to last
- Fidelity – Shows your commitment and promise towards her as a husband
- Falling in Love – Tells her that while you fell in love with her before, you want to do it all over again and want to keep falling for her forever
- Purchase Gifts for Your Best Man and Groomsmen
Having worked so hard for your wedding, your best man and groomsmen have been by your side through it all and it’s only fair that you reciprocate the same to show them how much you love and appreciate their presence.
Sure, your grooms’ team might not want you to do it, but purchasing personalised gifts for them is an excellent way to appreciate them.
While you could get something simple, do go for something that’s special like:
- Pearl cufflinks
- Weekend bag
- Pocket knives
- Golf set… and more.
- Get In Shape for Your Wedding Suit
We understand how overwhelming the entire wedding planning is and it’s easy for you to lose focus on your health.
That said, ensure that you’re removing some time for yourself and focusing on your well being. While you’re at it, keep yourself in perfect shape – after all, even you want to look good in your wedding tux!
Moreover, you’ll be photographed a lot during your wedding day; so here’s what you can do:
- Choose a really good tailor
- Go for a suit that’s classic and not trendy
- Skip that cummerbund
- Go with light or neutral colours (you may want to know about your bride’s dress colour to match her)
- Avoid those pleats
- Choose a simple collar
- Choose between a tie or bow
Other Things to Keep In Mind
When planning your own wedding, you need to ensure that you’re keeping your bride from losing her cool and for that, you need to steer clear of these things:
- Her wedding dress
- Her bridesmaids’ dresses
- Your wedding cake (you only get to taste and not decide!)
- Your wedding invitations
- Wedding flowers
Well, these were our top seven wedding planning tips for the groom!
Make sure you follow them to the T and we’re sure that you’ll be able to plan the perfect wedding for both you and your bride to be.